I read really fast. I’m usually reading 3-5 books at a time, and I finish a book about every 2-4 days. (Anything longer than a week usually means I am having a difficult time getting into the book.) So you can say I’m hardly the person who would need a method of reading faster. But when a friend told me of a way to read books faster, I was both skeptical and intrigued.
Almost everyone I know loves audiobooks. But I’m a visual learner, and when I play audiobooks, my mind starts to wander; the audio becomes background noise. People extol the virtues of playing audiobooks or podcasts while doing other things like driving or cleaning, but I find I pay more attention to the task at hand than to the recording.
So, what’s this secret? How does one read books faster?
I’m really happy with how much reading I’ve been doing this year (well, reading itself makes me happy). There’s too many books for me to dedicate a single post to each; at the rate I’m posting, I’ll have enough content for the next few years! But also, not every book I’ve read has been worthy of a whole post. So I thought I’d try something different and periodically do short reviews of books I’ve recently read.
I’ve had a bucket list ever since I learned what a bucket list was. More often than not, it would lie dormant; years would go by before I looked at it again. When the due date is DEATH, there really isn’t any urgency to get things checked off my list. So I’ve decided instead to shorten the timeframe, and do a summer bucket list.
It’s really hard to make friends as an adult. One of the reasons is that we subconsciously approach it as “finding” friends rather than “making” friends. We think about it in the same way we think about love at first sight, that we’ll meet this amazing person and instantly be BFFs. But it’s very rare to immediately click and bond with someone you just met. Because friendships aren’t found – friendships are made. And yet, we were never taught how to make friends.
For most people, it takes time to get to know someone and build that relationship. But it takes a lot more time when you don’t know how to do it; all the friends we’ve made up til now have appeared natural and easy. It’s only when you get to adulthood that you realize: making friends is hard.
In How to Be Yourself, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen maps out a three-step process for making friends. This is not a life hack; it will require a lot of investment, of both time and emotion. But it is a step-by-step, psychology-based guide on how to make friends. As with all things in life, you get out of it what you put into it. Whether it is foolproof or not depends on you.
I am not a medical professional, and this information should not be taken as medical advice. If you have any questions, or think you may be suffering from a medical condition, please consult your doctor.
In the last post, we went over the myths that we tell ourselves when we’re anxious. We learned that our inner critic usually overrides all logic and reasoning; this, in turn, amplifies our feelings of anxiety. We also learned some ways to overcome those myths. In this post, we will continue our quest to quiet our inner critics, and learn to reduce social anxiety.