In today’s world of social media and constant connection, it’s hard to not compare our behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel. Our own lives seem lacking in the face of others’ seemingly perfect lives. Kintsugi Wellness by Candice Kumai is about learning to embrace our imperfections and learning how to be imperfect.
Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken things with gold. Ceramic bowls that have cracked or completely broken are sealed together with lacquer and dusted with gold, and the result is often more beautiful than the original. This is a concept that we can apply to life: we are more beautiful for being broken and putting our lives, and selves, back together. The cracks tell our story. It marks our progress, so we do not forget. It’s a continuous process; life will happen, and we might break or crack again, but now we know we can put ourselves back together. We know how to be imperfect.
I’ve been working on simplifying my life, both with decluttering and with mental and emotional stuff (yes, I can be quite articulate). While I’ve been trying to clear out all my physical belongings, and even let go of a few dying friendships, the other day I realized: why am I constantly adding new stuff digitally? It seems like my latent hoarder tendencies that I’ve worked so hard to suppress have simply migrated to the digital, while I was busy working on the physical realm. I needed to do a digital declutter as well.
Even though I decided my word of the year was going to be “start,” it seems like I’m living more according to the word “essential.” I’ve been very drawn to books and writings on how to simplify your life. My own life has been a roller coaster this year, almost overwhelming at times. Do you ever feel like you’re trying to do too much but yet still not doing enough? That.
One of my friends introduced me to Leo Babauta’s blog, Zen Habits, a few years ago. If I’m being honest, I haven’t applied anything I’ve read from his blog. Life is just happening at the speed of, well, life, so it was hard to implement things. Especially when you fall down the internet rabbit hole and all of a sudden you’re reading on how to plant your own garden, when you were originally looking to build sustainable habits. So when I saw he had a book, I decided to try that instead; I always work better in book format.
The Power of Less sets up six principles that helps us identify what is essential, and how to eliminate everything that is not. The first third of the book presents the principles, and the rest covers specific steps and strategies for applying those principles in different aspects of your life.
I’ve always loved fairytales. They were some of the first stories I was ever told, and the first stories I ever read. As I got older and learned more and more of the origin stories, I became even more fascinated. Tales of kings and queens, wizards and sorceresses, unicorns and centaurs, dragons and fairies. And of course, the mermaid.
I was very excited when I saw Christina Henry’s The Mermaid. I love retellings of old stories; no one experiences the same stories the same way, so I’m always curious to hear other people’s versions of stories. And isn’t the cover beautiful?
That’s a wrap on our Scandinavian adventure! We’ve hit hygge, lykke, lagom, Swedish death cleaning, and even a taste of ostkaka! This is by no means a comprehensive guide, but in case you’re joining us for the first time, here’s a recap on this past month: